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The negative effects of loyalty traps

On Behalf of | Sep 14, 2022 | Custody and Parenting Time |

When a couple divorces in Wisconsin, one of the most unfortunate aspects is when children are caught in the middle. If you have child custody, be wary of any loyalty traps your ex may try to set for you.

What are loyalty traps?

Loyalty traps occur when one parent tries to use the child to get information or revenge on the other parent. They can also happen when a parent tries to make the child feel guilty for spending time with the other parent. Sometimes, a parent will even try to turn the child against the other parent.

How do these traps affect children and custody?

Loyalty traps can be harmful to children because they can make them feel caught in the middle of their parents’ conflict. For instance, a child may feel guilty for spending time with the parent that the other parent doesn’t want them to see. These traps can also make it difficult for children to have a healthy relationship with both parents.

Loyalty traps can also interfere with child custody arrangements by making it difficult for the child to spend time with both parents. This is especially true if the child begins to view one parent as the “enemy” because of the things the other parent has said.

How should you handle loyalty traps?

If you are a parent facing custody issues, it’s important to be aware of the possibility of loyalty traps. If you think your child is being caught in the middle of your conflict, talk to them about it. Explain that it’s okay for them to love both parents and that they don’t have to choose sides during or after the divorce process.

It’s also important to be civil with your ex, even if they are setting the traps. This can be difficult, but it’s important for the sake of your child. If you can’t communicate with your ex directly, consider using a mediator or custody attorney to help you resolve any conflict.

There are many different reasons why a parent might set loyalty traps, but whatever they are, it’s important to remember that they are harmful to children and can interfere with custody arrangements. Handling them in a timely and effective manner is crucial for the sake of everyone involved.