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Evaluate your decision to get divorced if you have children

On Behalf of | Jun 24, 2022 | Custody and Parenting Time |

Divorce may be an option when you and your spouse are having marital problems in Wisconsin. However, when children are involved, it makes this process more challenging. You’ll likely need to weigh the pros and cons to determine the best solution.

Risks of staying in a bad marriage

If you’re in a bad marriage and can’t work out your differences, the best option may be to get a divorce. Constant fighting or conflicts in your household may cause more damage to your child than living with a single parent. In this situation, another risk can include paying less attention to your children emotionally and physically. If you get a divorce, these problems may be alleviated. In cases where abuse is occurring, divorce can be vital to the well-being of your children.

Staying together may be best

Based on the results of one study, divorce may be highly detrimental to your children, resulting in the following deficiencies:

· Lower educational status
· Less income
· Lower-level jobs

Considering how it will affect your children long-term and short-term should be evaluated before making a final decision.

Helping your children cope with a divorce decision

Before deciding to divorce, it’s vital to try and repair the situation. Making an effort to rebuild the relationship may help resolve the problem. Seeking advice from sound resources, such as clergy or family therapists, may be beneficial.

However, if these efforts don’t work and you decide to get divorced, telling your children while everyone is together is best. Planning how to do it ahead of time is also essential as they will likely have questions, and everyone may become emotional. Reassure your kids that you still love them and that you will still care for them, even if you live in separate households. Letting them know there will be several opportunities to spend time with both parents can be helpful.

Examining your current relationship, its strengths and weaknesses and how your children are affected can help determine if getting a divorce is the right solution.